Friday, July 22, 2011

Brothers/Parenting 101/a lot of doting on my daughter

As the birth date of BB (Baby Brother) approaches, you can be sure I have a lot on my mind.  It doesn't all involved scouring the bathroom tile, turning Lucy's "big sister" shirt into short sleeves, or packing my hospital bag (all of which still need to be done).  I think a lot about brother/sister relationships.  I don't have any brothers.  I have one amazing sister and some great brother's in law (and sister's in law), but it's really not the same thing as growing up with a brother...and really, a little brother.  Are Lucy and BB going to get along?  Will they be playmates or are they too far apart in age?  Will they be lifelong friends?  I just don't know what that's like.  She talks about the baby a lot...she always wants to know what he's "saying" in there.  Usually it's something about being hungry or thanking Lucy for the hugs and kisses.  She is so excited to become a big sister and I am excited for her...it's something I've never done before.  We've had a few discussions about setting a good example and teaching him how to do things...I guess I'll just watch how it all unfolds.


Another thing on my mind lately is Parenting 101.  I was listening to this great General Conference talk by Lynn G. Robbins, from this past Conference and he says, 

"A sweet and obedient child will enroll a father or mother only in Parenting 101. If you are blessed with a child who tests your patience to the nth degree, you will be enrolled in Parenting 505. Rather than wonder what you might have done wrong in the premortal life to be so deserving, you might consider the more challenging child a blessing and opportunity to become more godlike yourself. With which child will your patience, long-suffering, and other Christlike virtues most likely be tested, developed, and refined? Could it be possible that you need this child as much as this child needs you?"


I am in Parenting 101.  Lucy's ability to reason is definitely a gift.  It has nothing to do with me.  Of course she has normal 3-year-old moments, but her temperament is pretty even...even if she is a bit bossy.  Maybe I'm an oblivious, doting mother and she's really a monster and I have no idea, but I don't think that's it.  She's a relatively good listener, she's spunky and creative, she is inquisitive and for the most part, pretty obedient...oh, and a dawdler.  She has Tony and I in Parenting 101, she eased us into things...we've said from the beginning that we've been amazingly lucky to have a good sleeper, a good eater, she doesn't care what she wears, she loves everyone and everything she comes into contact with, she always looks at the bright side of things, she makes friends wherever she goes.  "Hi, I'm Lucy, L-U-C-Y, what's your name?"  She isn't intimidated by much and I've learned being in Primary this past month...she is the one with her hand constantly up, having something to say, "Um, excuse me."  When Jen comes to pick us up, Lucy gets to the van door and exclaims, "Your favorite girl is here!"  


I am excited and anxious for what is in store for us as parents.  Will BB introduce us to parenting 505?  I know the next few months are going to be totally nutty and I have been praying for peace, I wanted this right?  I wanted to totally disrupt my life, again, and fit into it another person to love and cherish.  I once heard my Aunt Susie say, "the best gift you can give your child is a sibling," and I am having faith she's right.


Now, off to scour that floor.

10 comments:

Diana said...

We have a 505 child--his name is Anderson but don't worry about your BB coming out that way...he might but he might be like ours and slyly become that by the age of 2 or 3. And you'll be prepared for it whenever it comes. For instance last night at midnight I hear crying in my bathroom--he had come all the way upstairs from his bed to pee on MY bathroom floor and then we discovered this morning that if it had not been for his little stunt we would have slept through the night...Ella slept from 10-6. He's in trouble this morning...(said in a mildly joking manner! :) ) Good luck, Anna, we're so excited for you and can't wait for him to join your family.

GramMO said...

I love you. I loved your post!!! I think you'll be in Parenting 101 until BB gets a brother...That's when you get to understand the mind of "them"... and, I don't think the classes are numbered the same way by then. It's more like Parenting - HoldOnToYourHat? 'Cause there's plenty of "Goof off time at Rodeo Round up Ranch!" That's why Tony knew what it was Not! I would not trade even one day! It still makes me laugh what he said!!!I'm laughing now. I need you to make a crafty sign to hang up in my house and one for my class room and one for the bathroom........

Jennifer said...

Lucy and BB will adore and disadore each other all through their lives. But mostly adore. And always they will be loyal. And Lucy is not a monster. She is wonderful. "Please put those chips on a plate."

Kimberlee said...

I think they will be best friends. And Lucy is wonderful. And Thanks. I definitely have a kid who is trying to bring me closer to God.

Stephanie said...

I loved this post Anna. That happens to be one of my new favorite quotes. I felt so much better after I heard that quote. I wouldn't say Skyler has enrolled us in 505, but definitely at least 303. Regardless of what kind of parenting is in store for you, you won't regret it. It will be exactly what you need, and the crazy nutty moments will be far outweighed by the beautiful ones. We just got back from vacation and I couldn't help but ponder on the way home how much more peaceful it would have been had I been able to simply swim and play with Skyler instead of chase a new walker around, make sure she didn't eat rocks, etc. But I wouldn't go back for anything. That busy, chubby, irresistible baby has brought me more joy than I ever knew to be possible. Our family truly feels so much more complete now, and I know it will be the same for you! Also, I know someday we will look back on these crazy hectic years, and give anything to go back

Stacie said...

Loved this post, Anna. Thanks for sharing. I love that quote...what is the name of the conference talk? Lucy is wonderful, and I am sure Baby Brother will be too, though there are sure to be growing pains for everyone at times. My relationships with my two younger brothers are probably the best of all my siblings. That is partly due to our personalities, but I definitely felt a little responsible for them growing up, and still do a little now--that nurturing thing!

I hope your hospital bag is packed by now!! :)

Valerie and Mercado Family said...

It will be great! I think BB will be similar to Lucy, so you might not have to go through 505. Good luck!

Bethany said...

I loved this entry. I feel like I say that on every post. But, I guess I just love your blog. :)I can concur that Lucy raises her hand often to say, "um, excuse me." What a cute little girl!

Becca said...

Thanks for that quote. Daniel is my only Parenting 101 kid. I guess that means I need a LOT of refining. I think your aunt was right, though. I remember my parents taking me out for a birthday dinner without any of my siblings, when I was little. Halfway through the meal, I announced, "I'm glad I'm not an only child; you two are BORING!" Perhaps I was a 505 kid, myself? :-)

bethy said...

I'm sure that Lucy and BB will love each other to bits. Our first princess enrolled us in parenting 505. But it has been a blessing because we are constantly re-evaluating how to do things better and how to be more like the Savior in our parenting. Perhaps we were in need of some humbling. :) At any rate, we love our girlies and love that they love each other. :)